Taking a stand

For some reason, I've been in situations lately, quite often, where I have been prompted to express a different opinion than a group. The tendancy I've noticed for most people is to just go along with what a teacher is saying. Whether that person is rewritting history in their own words or not- people tend to want to just go along.
I've been thinking that 1) There is simply a difference in our walks. 2)Some are more mature and some are not and 3)A differing opinion must be voiced in love, gently.
I've been taking this Excellent Wife SS class for a month and a half. It's been a good study, I've learned alot. The problem I have is when a teacher decides to interpret things in it to fit their own personal views regardless of whether it's biblical or not. Disagreeing with the author is one thing, but saying that scripture itself is wrong is hard to swallow. So I spoke up. The group had discussed church discipline- they decided it should never happen. It's much more comfortable to keep things hidden isn't it? Church discipline is supposed to be used as a last resort if a person is not willing to change after being approached from a second party and to stop the particular sin. It's not something you see very often cause most times, people repent and it's over with. Well, I have to say that I have seen church discipline a couple times in my five years at Calvary. The outcome is of course embarrassing for all involved, but the utmost goal is restoring that person to the right relationship with God. So our little wifey group just decided that it is not necessary ever. In a way, I'm glad I was there to speak up. The passage is Matthew 18:17.
They also went on to say that it's okay to divorce if your husband is just not nice to you and lets say is verbally abusive. Of course physically abusive is something else, but just because you might not get along with your spouse doesn't mean that it's OKAY to just get a divorce. I remember Pastor Brady saying at my own wedding, "So many couples go into a marriage thinking that if it doesn't work out, we'll just get a divorce. But divorce is and has never been an option." There are specific guidelines for Christian wives that are married to unbelievers in the book. I won't go into all that now. If neither are Christian- well then obviously they are not under the law of God and don't fall into what I'm talking about.
I think what is happening is that the teacher has gotten very close to a new person who is presently going through a nasty divorce. This Christian lady left her husband for reasons outside of what are would be biblically based. So rationalizing a person's reason for divorce can make you think a different way apparently. I'm not saying that Christianity is black and white- there are many gray areas, but I don't believe these are the areas.
One slip of the tongue on the area of divorce in a bible study can really do alot of harm to people! Suddenly it's okay to divorce if you're just not happy. Our country is liberal enough on divorce, but our church shouldn't be teaching what the world says is okay.
So after thinking more about this week's study, I'm going to give our pastor the book and have him read this chapter and make sure I'm understanding it correctly and make sure that he thinks it's in line with what God says. He picked the study so I assume he has already read the book anyway, but before I can give a real reproof to the teacher privately- I have make sure I'm in line too. It's a sticky situation for sure.